Years ago, Cher and others made the song United We Stand, Divided We Fall famous.
In the decades since, Cher has refused to unite and stand with conservative Christians on views of right and wrong. Hypocrite.
The Result of Agreeing to Disagree
When two people disagree, only two possibilities exist:
- One is correct, the other is wrong.
- Both are wrong.
You can see, can’t you, that two people who hold opposite conclusions on moral issues cannot both be correct, correct?
That is why when you disagree with someone on an issue of right and wrong, both of the following are politically correct and liberal and destructive (all three of those are synonyms):
- Agree to disagree
- Respectfully disagree
Don’t Do Either of Those!
I don’t want my Christian friends to be politically correct. I don’t want my Christian friends to be liberal. I don’t want my Christian friends to be destructive.
That is why you never approve in any way of someone’s moral position if you take the opposite side. Doing so makes you an accomplice to their error and enables them further to promote bad morality.
But What If I Am Wrong?
You may very well be the one who is wrong. That is why you should always be open to reproof and correction. I have been wrong countless times in the past. This is why I suspect issues exist right now that I’m wrong about – I just don’t know what they are or I’d take the other side!
Many times in my life I’ve been on the wrong side of a moral issue and learned from the Bible and from friends with wisdom that I was wrong. I don’t like to be wrong and I hate it when I am… but I don’t hate being wrong because they are correct! Instead, I hate getting things wrong because I strive to be on the correct side of moral issues. I immediately change my position when I find out that I am. Having the “redemptive gift of prophet” means I am much harder on myself when wrong than when others are wrong.
That is why when arguing moral issues, I am absolutely positive in my position or I don’t argue them! This doesn’t mean I can’t be wrong in my position. I just don’t see that I am. On issues I haven’t studied enough to be sure of though, I don’t argue strongly. I have no right to do that.
This is why if you are unsure of a moral position that conflicts with someone else, then you shouldn’t be dogmatic either. But if you’re sure of your position, then don’t cause your friends to stumble! Never allow them to be morally wrong!
This means you don’t end the conversation with the statement that you “Respectfully disagree.” Never respect a person’s position that is morally bad. You also should never “Agree to disagree.” Doing so lets them off the hook on their moral error.
So What Do I Do?
It’s fine to end a conversation where you disagree with a friend on a moral issue. It’s fine (in most cases) to remain good friends. Just never let them think it’s fine if both of you are on the opposing ends of a moral issue. Never “respectfully disagree” with their position.
In the meantime, it’s your job to find out the truth on anything and everything. There is only one place to do that. It’s in the Bible where the answer to every problem, old and new, awaits our study. Find out what it says and then take that position.